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To all you WOW lovers out there, step away from your screens!  Start creating some balance in your life and making some space for a real-live, flesh and blood person in your life...Look to our materials on Keeping Your Life Balanced and Lifestyle for more on this.  Though you may attract someone who is just as infactuated with online games as you, I'd invite you to ask yourself whether this is the kind of exchange you really want with a special lady friend.  This is an opportunity for you to evaluate your habits and lifestyle choices and determine which are s

Kplunkett
This is a complicated and very specific type of situation, understanding the self esteem, baggage, and confidence courses will help you to help her to work through some of these issues, in the near future we will be posting more materials on dealing with the past and getting over setbacks which will support you to support her as well, but here is a start to help you.  In addition, because this is such a specific situation and has a lot of factors both yours and hers you may consider getting a few one on one coaching sessions from myself or Jessica on this topic.

Greetings Kevin and thank you so much for your question, it is obvious that you care about this woman very much, yet some unresolved matters block the flow and progression of your connection.  You are demonstrating your sensitivity and awareness by wanting her to be safe and creating space for her to express herself.  However, this can quickly fall into the dreaded "Friend Zone" if you don't assert what you want and encourage her to do the same.  I invite you to review our materials on "Niceguyitis" and my submission on avoiding the friend zone so that you can confidently, ye

Well Jason, the answer is yes, that is by "indicators" you mean that she's doing so with a purpose in mind.

Hey Jake,

Hi there John, The answer to this one goes pretty deep from her desire to display that she's a capable and competent, able-bodied being to responding to a feeling that you are imposing upon her to her subscription to the feminist movement ideas. Many don't know how to receive kind gestures from men, especially if there's been some history of mistreatment or like in my case, conditioning from my strong father that "I don't need a man". This can translate into some baggage and a chip on the shoulder that you aren't responsible for removing.

Hey there Pete,

Often and Yes. I can tell you from personal experience that waitresses (especially those who work in places where alcohol is massively consumed) receive mucho male attention. Ranging from the ever popular, intoxicated friend approach, "My friend here thinks you're cute..." to the more creative type (I had notes written to me on sugar packets) to the downright creepy stocker kind who come to know the waitress' schedule, there are all kinds of shenanigans.

Well randy Randy,

Salutations Dennis, and thanks for your question because we receive inquiries like this all the time. The please-give-me-a-standard equation kind of question. I would be doing you a disservice if I said "After the second date" or "Never on the first date" or something of the like. If I'm not teaching you how to better read body language, take cues from the environment and build sexual tension, then I'm telling you to rely on a pat answer that simply may not apply to your situation.

Well man of mystery, it's difficult to simply "appear" confident because women are creatures with the fantastic capacity to listen to ALL of what you're saying, especially what you're NOT saying or what your body language is saying (think back to the days of old when your mom knew that you were telling a lie). We pick up on the nuances of your presentation, especially when it comes to nervousness and anxiety.

Hey there Greg, there isn't a standard answer for this, because quite frankly, it depends on what she's doing at the time you bug, I mean start a conversation :) I say that tongue and cheek because you'd be astounded at how many men do not take into consideration some appropriate social cues when approaching women (i.e. interrupting on obviously closed conversation or when she's got ear phones in and running fast on a treadmill).

There are many single mothers out there dating just like you are. The difference with single mothers is that they obviously have different responsibilities and are taking care of a little one or little ones at home. Do not assume that just because they have a child that they are looking for you to father that child or even meet their child initially. I have dated and met with many women who have children that also like to date and have fun just like you.

There are several possibilities for this phenomenon, from the city you live in (this is not a rarity in LA for example) to the situation you're noticing this (rush hour is hardly a social time) to the kind of look that you're putting out there. Because you're the only factor that we can alter at this moment, try to observe yourself for a moment. What kinds of things are you internally thinking to yourself when you walk past these women? How are you feeling in your body?

Bryan

This is the question that every guy who struggles with Niceguyitis and Approach Anxiety asks.  Fortunately for you, we have built several programs on the subject of meeting women.

This is an interesting question From Ed.

There are several ways to answer this question and I will identify a few angles.  The major issue is that if you are asking this question and already in some sort of a relationship

Hopefully by now, you've read the dealing with baggage course for some preliminary ideas about how to deal with the green monster.  Jealousy is really an indicator of

Yes, I have met hundreds of women on Myspace! I currently have over a 1000 friends, most of whom are women, on Myspace. It can become very difficult to keep track of all of them. One thing that I suggest is